The first time I was offered coaching I turned it down. The truth is that I didn’t like how it made me feel about myself to think I needed a coach. I was proud that I’d reached my current position on my own steam.
When I warmed to the idea, I held off further because I had this concern that I would embarrass myself. I had no idea how to be coached; I didn’t know what I wanted to be coached on.
I had this image in my head of being on a couch pouring a stream of unstructured consciousness over my coach whilst watching their eyes rolling. I’d imagined waking up the following day with a coaching hangover, after making a fool of myself and telling this person my deepest thoughts and feelings.
As I look back now, I can see my negative self-talk for what it was. As I reflect, I know that working with Coaches and Mentors has made a huge difference to my life and I could have started sooner.
I know it would be a shame if you didn’t take the opportunity to invest in yourself, so here’s what you need to know so you can be bold and save yourself years.
You and your coach should be on the same frequency. Trust you gut. If you get a good feeling about working with this person, roll with it, but be aware that it’s not about likeability.
You don’t need to know what you want to be coached on. You only really need a notion that where you are now is not where you want to be. Your coach will provide the structure.
It’s ok not to have everything structured and worked out. A great coach will help you reach a point of clarity and simplify the message. Understand that a coach’s perspective helps them see what you cannot.
Coaching is about the future. It’s not therapy, although some (like myself) have skills to work with you on things that anchor you to the past - but this isn’t the focus.
You get out what you put in, so be brave and hold nothing back - hide nothing. A great coach will not judge you and it’s completely confidential.
Growth requires you to expand your thinking, so be prepared for deep questions that make you think and perhaps make you feel a little uncomfortable.
If you’re working with a great coach, you are going to surprise yourself and you can find yourself doing what you once thought was impossible.
What’s holding you back?