How to be coached.

The first time I was offered coaching I turned it down.  The truth is that I didn’t like how it made me feel about myself to think I needed a coach. I was proud that I’d reached my current position on my own steam.  


When I warmed to the idea, I held off further because I had this concern that I would embarrass myself.  I had no idea how to be coached; I didn’t know what I wanted to be coached on.  


I had this image in my head of being on a couch pouring a stream of unstructured consciousness over my coach whilst watching their eyes rolling.  I’d imagined waking up the following day with a coaching hangover, after making a fool of myself and telling this person my deepest thoughts and feelings.


As I look back now, I can see my negative self-talk for what it was.  As I reflect, I know that working with Coaches and Mentors has made a huge difference to my life and I could have started sooner.


I know it would be a shame if you didn’t take the opportunity to invest in yourself, so here’s what you need to know so you can be bold and save yourself years. 

  • You and your coach should be on the same frequency.  Trust you gut.  If you get a good feeling about working with this person, roll with it, but be aware that it’s not about likeability.  

  • You don’t need to know what you want to be coached on.  You only really need a notion that where you are now is not where you want to be. Your coach will provide the structure.

  • It’s ok not to have everything structured and worked out.  A great coach will help you reach a point of clarity and simplify the message. Understand that a coach’s perspective helps them see what you cannot.

  • Coaching is about the future.  It’s not therapy, although some (like myself) have skills to work with you on things that anchor you to the past - but this isn’t the focus.

  • You get out what you put in, so be brave and hold nothing back - hide nothing.  A great coach will not judge you and it’s completely confidential.

  • Growth requires you to expand your thinking, so be prepared for deep questions that make you think and perhaps make you feel a little uncomfortable.

If you’re working with a great coach, you are going to surprise yourself and you can find yourself doing what you once thought was impossible.


What’s holding you back?